When an idea of writing my own blog entered my head for the first time, I thought it would be a piece of cake. All I had to do was to think up an interesting subject, write a page-long essay about it, add some nice photos, put it on my website and sit back and enjoy several hundred comments popping up every few seconds. I was sure it wouldn’t take me long to achieve world-wide recognition and find some devoted fans.
Now I know better! I’ve been blogging for over a year and I can honestly say that after months of struggling and toiling I’ve achieved … nothing! My road to success seems even longer and more winding than before.
So what does it mean to be a blogger? Is it really that hard?
There are some bloggers who post daily. Unfortunately for me I am not that prolific. It is true that I’ve got lots of ideas swarming in my head but to put them all into words is a different matter.
It usually takes me several days to finish a simple post. More elaborate ones have to wait for a brainwave, a poetic invention or a divine intervention. So at the beginning of my blogging career I vowed to deliver one solid post a week. And by solid I mean a well-researched, well-written and, if possible, a funny piece of writing. Not some five-year-old rubbish.
So, you can imagine my anger and jealousy (yes, jealousy!) when I stumble upon an extremely poor post and see a gazillion of enthusiastic comments below it. Why? What is there to like? I start to question human sanity. It’s either me or them that are nutty as a fruitcake. Clearly there’s no accounting for taste!
I caress each word, write and rewrite whole paragraphs to make my posts more appealing and worthy of the public attention. And what’s the point?! The only person who reads my blog is my partner. Well, it’s only natural that he should support me. After all, he was the one who told me to start my own blog. I know he did it to get me off his back and have more time to himself. However, his master plan backfired and now he must play the role of an advisor, a critic and an all-around-the-clock supporter. Serves him right!!!
All that post writing, photo shooting and editing takes up a better part of my free time and God only knows I haven’t got that much of it. I wouldn’t mind leaving my job to work as a full-time blogger but unfortunately my bills won’t pay themselves. I also need something more substantial than a piece of stale cheese in my fridge. I started my blog to share my views and ideas, not to make money. I wouldn’t say NO! to an extra cash, though.
I am happy as a clam when people find my posts useful or funny and share their opinions with me. It makes my job as a writer more satisfying and meaningful. After all, there’s no point pouring my heart out if no-one reads it.
Connecting with other bloggers and interacting with people is vital to the success of my blog. I work hard to promote my posts. However, my efforts at getting more traffic go unnoticed. If it’s not for the lack of trying then what’s the problem?
Well, in the world of ubiquitous Internet and social media everyone’s a blogger! Ten years ago there were very few bloggers out there. They didn’t have to struggle to get attention, they had no rivals to speak of. Nowadays blogs pop up like mushrooms and each and every one of fresh bloggers is determined to capture public imagination and make a success of their endeavours.
I always use Facebook and Instagram to share my latest accomplishments. I’ve lost count of how many blogging groups and communities I belong to. Like 4 like, comment 4 comment or ad click are the most popular bloggers community initiatives. The rules are very simple – you receive as much as you give yourself.
If only!!! I think that this whole idea of comradeship and support is bullshit! I once spent several hours commenting various posts and got no comment in return. And don’t start me on like 4 like! It’s more of a give-me-your-like-and-I-will-ignore-you-or-unlike-your-blog-the-moment-you-stop-clicking-that-like-button-on-my-Facebook-page. I am not saying that all bloggers are like that, only that very few aren’t.
I always give back the love I receive because I know how important it is. Especially for new bloggers who have to get their bearings in this maze of understatements and strange rules. A kind word and some appreciation of my work can certainly make my day. I am sure that once I gain devoted followers everything will be much easier. Fingers crossed!
Behind every successful blogger there is a long-suffering partner / husband / boyfriend. Let me assure you, there’s no end to my man’s duties!
As my personal paparazzi, he must be always ready to take beautiful photos of me. After all, I never know when or where I might feel like posing. And since I am rarely pleased with my mug in the photos, he must take several hundreds of them in one go. Then he has to endure verbal abuse because he can’t capture my non-existent beauty or my current mood. There’s no pleasing some women!
He is my chief editor and his job is to read and reread every draft of a post I produce without murmuring. And when my magnum opus is ready, I expect him to sing his praises to my productive mind. No word of criticism must be uttered. I might take it badly and throw some heavy object in his direction.
I treat him as my fashion consultant. Truth be told, I don’t expect him to know current trends – I am happy that he knows the difference between a skirt and a dress (and how to take them off quickly and without serious damage). I want him to admire my new outfit and write down all the adjectives that describe it the best.
He is my sole consoler and that means providing support and understanding for 24 hours a day. He must always be close at hand with a box of Kleenex and comfort a wailing banshee I turn into every time my new post does not do as well as it should. He must also lend me his ear if I need to discuss some blogging ideas or simply air my grievances.
Yes, being a blogger’s man ain’t easy. All that pressure and expectations, very little appreciation. But if I finally become a successful blogger, my hard-working partner can bask in my glory. 😉
There are times when I want to give up my blogging career but then I remember why I started it in the first place. It was for the love of writing and expressing myself through words. I may not be a writer good enough to write a book but my posts are not that bad. And if someone finds them funny or helpful, my job is well done!